2 Samuel: Lesson 17 — Conflicting Advice

The following are discussion questions from a weekly study I am leading through the book of 2 Samuel.  We meet each Wednesday evening at the Deer Run Church of Christ.

A Man After God’s Own Heart:
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

A Study of the Book of 2 Samuel

Lesson 17 (Conflicting Advice)
2 Samuel 17
January 16, 2013

The Text:

  1. What advice does Ahithophel give Absalom?  How is that advice received?  Why does Absalom summon Hushai?
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  2. What does Hushai tell Absalom about David?  . . . About Absalom’s men?  What advice does Hushai give?  How is that advice received?  Why?
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  3. What message does Hushai have sent to David?  Who did he entrust the message to?  How was it delivered?  What did David do when he received the message?
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  4. How did Ahithophel react when he realized his advice was not being taken?  What did he do?
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  5. Where did David go?  What was brought to him?  Who brought it?  Why?
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The Application:

  1. Who do you go to for advice?  What makes them a good source for advice?  Do you often look for “second opinions” even when the first makes sense to you?
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  2. Is it possible to tell the truth in “non-truthful” or deceptive ways?  How?  When you are given two opinions, how do you decide which one is more reliable or useful?
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  3. What could be some advantages of hearing “worst case scenarios”?  Disadvantages?  How quick are you to respond to reliable warnings?  Do people view you as reliable in a way that your warning them about the danger of life outside of Christ causes them to act?
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  4. Have you ever been given good advice that was ignored?  How does that make you feel?  How can you keep from being discouraged when you know the right thing to do and no one else will accept it?
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  5. Where do you go when you’re in trouble?  Why?  Do you have people who would notice your needs and help meet them?  Do you pay attention to the real needs of others so that you can help them?
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Next Week: Is It Worth It?
2 Samuel 18

2 Samuel: Lesson 16 — Is That Really So?

The following are discussion questions from a weekly study I am leading through the book of 2 Samuel.  We meet each Wednesday evening at the Deer Run Church of Christ.

A Man After God’s Own Heart:
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

A Study of the Book of 2 Samuel

Lesson 16 (Is That Really So?)
2 Samuel 16
January 9, 2013

The Text:

  1. As David fled Jerusalem, who came to meet him?  What did he bring?  What did he say they were for?
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  2. What question does David have for Ziba?  What response does he give?  How does David respond?
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  3. Who else comes to meet David?  What does he do?  Why?  What does Abishai want to do about it?
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  4. How does David respond to Abishai?  How does David compare what is happening with what his son is doing?  What was David’s hope?
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  5. Who comes to see Absalom?  How does Absalom respond to him?  What is his reply/reasoning back to Absalom?  What advice does Ahithophel give Absalom?  Why?

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The Application:

  1. What do you think of the old phrase, “never look a gift  horse in the mouth”?  Is that good advice?  Why/Why not?
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  2. Do you question things that don’t make sense?  Is it easy to believe things that seem to make sense?  Have you ever made a bad decision/judgment based on information that sounded right, but really wasn’t?
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  3. Have you ever been spoken badly about because of your past or because of who formerly did what you are doing?  Have you ever spoken badly about someone because of their past or your relationship with a person they “took over” for?  How do you react to criticism?
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  4. How tempting is it to involve others in dealing with criticism directed at you that they are not really a part of?  How often do you look for elements of truth in criticism?  What makes it easy/hard to do so?
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  5. Do you often “change sides” with issues or people?  How confident are you of people who seem to often “change sides”?  Who does your loyalty belong to?  How likely are you to follow bad advice if it appears it will serve to offend your enemy?  What if that advice came from someone who everyone believed had a direct connection with God?
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Next Week: Conflicting Advice
2 Samuel 17

What Does God Want?

By far the most important question of a Christian’s life can easily become the one least likely asked — “What Does God Want?”.  We concern ourself with “what do I want”, “what does my family want”, “what do my friends want”, what does the public want”, “what does my church want”, even “what does the un-churched want” — and so often we let questions like those drive us to action without ever considering that what God wants is far and away more important than anything else.

Most of the time I don’t think it is deliberate, we just don’t take the time to listen.  We anticipate that knowing what God wants is either impossible or too difficult to ascertain so we settle for what people want.  Yet in this settling, we often wonder why we don’t experience the success and satisfaction that we long for.

Fortunately, God is not silent about what He wants.  As He calls us to a life of discipleship, we take instruction from His Word and listen for the life application that He calls us to.

Here is what He told those who would follow Him as He led them out of Egypt: “And now, O Israel, what does the LORD your God ask of you but to fear the LORD your God, to walk in all his ways, to love him, to serve the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to observe the LORD’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good?”  (Deuteronomy 10:12-13 NIV)

He gave essentially the same answer in slightly different language generations later through the prophet Micah: “He has showed you, O man, what is good.  And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”  (Micah 6:9 NIV)

Simple, right? 🙂  Well, at least simple to read.  Yet if it was so simple, we would probably not have such a difficult time living the Christian life between Sundays.  Here are some tough questions we ought to ask ourself each day:

  • How do I fear the LORD my God today?
  • Am I really walking in “all His ways” today?
  • How is my love for God expressed today?
  • How does God want me to serve Him with all my heart and soul today?
  • Am I being careful to observe ALL the LORD’s commands and decrees today?
  • Am I acting “justly” in all of my relationships with people and with God today?
  • If I really love mercy, how does God want me to express that today?
  • Am I “walking humbly” with every step, word, thought, and action that I have today?

What does God want?  God wants faithful children who seek Him with all their heart, mind, soul, and strength and who love their neighbor as themself.  I pray that you and I live each and every day according to God’s answer to the most important question ever, “What does God want?”!

Turning A New LEAF

How often do you wish that things were different?  Guess what, so does God!  The difference often is that we want this or that circumstance to be different, or this or that person to be different — but God wants me (and you) to be different!

God has called us to himself and tells us, “What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?  What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?   What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?  For we are the temple of the living God.  As God has said: ‘I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people. Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.  Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.  I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.'” (2 Corinthians 6:15-18)

If different isn’t a label you would like to wear, some passages say that God has called us from among the nations to be a “peculiar” people! 🙂  God always expected that his chosen people, his royal priesthood, would stand out and be noticed for their qualities that reflect his nature.  If I am no different from the world — from those outside of a relationship with Christ — in the way I talk, live, work, interact with friends and enemies, and play then what do I really have that they are in need of and how will they know I have something they need?

Paul writes to the Ephesians in chapter 4 about the body of Christ and the unity it ought to have.  He describes that unity coming from the body completely functioning under the Head, that is, Christ!  This occurs when the body is equipped by those gifted for the equipping of the members so that each part does the work it was designed to do.  A huge stumbling block to this happening is our refusal to be different — to leave the ways of the world that we are comfortable with.  Paul puts it this way, “So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.”  The first readers would have heard that sentence as a command to no longer live as pagans, as those outside of relationship with God!

So, if we’re to be different — a peculiar people — it is likely that most of us will be need to be “Turning a New LEAF” in some areas of our life.  As it turns out, I just preached a sermon this morning with that very title! 🙂

When we choose to be different from the world we need a new Language!  The language we use in our communication methods says a lot about what is inside of us.  Jesus says that it is out of the overflow of the heart that the mouth speaks.  The same can be said of our written and other communication forms.  I have a good number of friends on Facebook and see a lot of posts in a week’s time.  It is rather alarming to see the language that many people use in this social media venue.  A good number of them, I am confident, would never dream of using the words or suggestive nature of their posts in face-to-face communication but they seem to have bought in to the idea that everyone “talks” that way on-line so it is okay.  As we consider the new language God desires for us to have, he says we should “not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths, but only what is  helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”  I think the same instruction applies to our other forms of communication as well.

We also need to have a new Eye as we seek to live differently from those outside of relationship with Christ.  Jesus says the eye is the light to our body — some translations would say it is the window to our soul.  Either way, the application is the same — if the eye is filled with evil, the whole body becomes filled with darkness.  While it may be nearly impossible to keep our eyes from seeing inappropriate things and images, we should have control over how long we gaze at such things.  If we watch the same shows, go to the same movies, view the same websites as the world and simply pass it off as “that’s just the way entertainment is now days”, what does that say about our desire to be holy as Christ is holy?  Not only do our “new eyes” need to not gaze on that which is inappropriate, they also need to cause us to look at people in a different way.  Paul writes to the Corinthians to remind them that since Christ died for all we should “regard no one from a worldly point of view.”  As we turn a new leaf, our eyes begin to see every person as Christ sees them — a valuable creation that he loves enough to die for!

Often times, one of the greatest hindrances to living with a new language and a new eye is our need for a new Attitude!  Paul writes to the Philippians and reminds them of all the encouragement, comfort, fellowship, tenderness, and compassion they have as a result of being united with Christ.  He goes on to tell them that because of all this they ought to have the same attitude as that of Christ Jesus!  This new attitude calls for us to look at all we would consider great — even equality with God in the case of Jesus — and consider it not worth holding on to if letting go would benefit others!  Our new attitude must consider the eternal good of others above our own wants and desires.  We change our language — not out of a legalistic requirement but out of love for people and a desire to reflect Christ more accurately.  We change both what we view and  how we view — not because we have to in order to meet God’s approval but because we want people to have a glimpse of the holiness of God lived out in our life.  This new attitude is a big-time game changer when we decide to humble ourself and consider the needs of others above our own.

If this all sounds easy to you, I can think of only a couple of options.  One, you need to teach the rest of us in this area of turning a new leaf and living a life worthy of the calling we have in Christ Jesus.  Or two, and more likely :), you need to join the rest of us in pursuing this final aspect of turning a new leaf — living a new Faith!  James makes it clear that having a vibrant, living faith is where the rubber meets the road.  One easy test to decide if this new faith is needed is to ask yourself a simple question, “What activity is my faith accomplishing?”.  James says that a faith that is not doing anything is dead and therefore not really a faith at all!  If your belief in God does not compel you to do the things he calls you do then I’m not too sure you really believe in the Almighty God of the Bible.  If you fail to act because you don’t belief it’s possible or that your sharing of Jesus will make any difference, then I suspect that you need a new faith — the faith that believes that God really can work together all things for good to those who love him and are called according to his purposes.  This living faith ties all three of the other “new leaf” components together as it determines if we really do anything about our language, our eyes, or our attitude!  The faith that God calls us to says that I will be different because I know that God can accomplish great things through my weaknesses.

So, do you really wish things were different?  Enough that you are willing to be different?  I pray that you and I would daily remind ourself that “God wants ME to be different!”  I pray that as we decide to turn a new LEAF that we would live with a new Language, a new Eye, a new Attitude, and a new Faith!

2 Samuel: Lesson 15 — I Can Be King!

The following are discussion questions from a weekly study I am leading through the book of 2 Samuel.  We meet each Wednesday evening at the Deer Run Church of Christ.

A Man After God’s Own Heart:
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

A Study of the Book of 2 Samuel

Lesson 15 (I Can Be King!)
2 Samuel 15
December 19, 2012

The Text:

  1. What is it that Absalom did with his renewed favor with the king?  Where would he start his day?  Who would typically be coming into town?  How would Absalom greet them?  What did he say about the chances of them being heard by the king?
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  2. After planting in the people’s mind that there was no one to listen to them, what does Absalom suggest?  How would he treat those who wanted to show him respect?  What effect did this have on the people of Israel?
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  3. How long did Absalom act in this manner?  What request did he have of David?  What did he state he wanted to do?  What did he do instead?
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  4. What message was brought to David?  How did  he respond?  Who went with him?  Who were the Gittites?  What did David suggest they do?  What did they do instead?
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  5. What reaction did the people have as David and those with him passed by?  What did David have done with the ark of God after they had left the city?  What was David’s prayer concerning the counsel Absalom would receive?  Who was Hushai and what did David have him do?

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The Application:

  1. Is enough ever enough?  What makes it easier/more difficult to be satisfied?  Has anyone ever tried to discredit you to make themselves appear better or more appealing?  Have you tried that?  How should you respond when people do that?
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  2. Do you ever act like you have all the answers or could solve all problems if given the opportunity?  Why is flattery so deceitful yet so effective?
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  3. Do you ever make a request in a way that you know will be received positively when you really have a different purpose and motive behind the request than what you let on?  Why is manipulation so damaging?
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  4. How hard is it to flee a situation even when you know the consequences of staying will be harmful to you and others?  Are there people who would stand with you no matter what?  Are there people you would stand with no matter what?  Why?
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  5. How hard is it to do what needs done when doing so causes sadness in others?  How hard is it to leave the “making right” in God’s hands?  Are there ways He wants you involved?

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Next Week: Is That Really So?
2 Samuel 16

Pure In Relationship

This is part of a series of writings I am working on to expand the post I published earlier, Pure In HEART.  This series will be taking a more detailed look at each point of that post.  Today I look at part four, Pure in Relationship.

Again, the seeds for this series came from God through a song that took up residence in my mind for the better part of a week.  🙂   I think the song may be titled, “Highway To Heaven”, but the line that stuck with me is, “it’s a highway to heaven . . . none can go up there . . . but the pure in heart . . . well, it’s a highway to heaven . . . walking on the King’s highway!”

The phrase that continually jumped out at me was the idea of “pure in heart“.  I believe God has given me another acrostic to provide the framework for a sermon He has been giving me — and thus a series of writings.  What does it mean to be pure in heart?  I want to look at five areas that should help lead us toward being pure in heart.  We’ve already looked at living Pure in Humor, Pure in Eyes, and Pure in Attitude and now we come to Pure in Relationship.

” Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.”  1 Timothy 5:1-2 (NIV)

Somewhere along the line it seems that respect in relationship has slid out of practice in a society that values the individual rights above all else and lives by an “everything is about me” attitude.  Living pure in relationship will require a foundation of purity in attitude.  As our attitude grows into being more Christ-like, we more consistently consider the needs of others above those of our own.

Paul writes to the young evangelist, Timothy, with some great instructions on what a pure relationship would look like in a variety of age and gender contexts.  We treat older men as if they were our father — even, and especially, when the situation appears to call for correction.  We treat younger men as brothers — siblings who may not always agree but always are looking out for and protect against attacks from outside the family.  We treat older women as we would a loving and sacrificial mother — with great love, tenderness and compassion.  We treat younger women as a sister — with absolute purity and no allowance for thoughts by us, or by anyone else, that would place them in a compromising position.  Unfortunately, much of the meaning gets lost when we fail to understand how Timothy would have heard and taken the comparisons that Paul makes.

The ultimate purity in relationship ought to be found in our relationship with God through Jesus Christ!  This is a relationship that we simply must get right.  As the song that planted the seeds for this series says, “none can go up there, but the pure in heart”.  In our relationship with God, do we tend to “cheat” on Him with other lovers?  Do we talk back and show complete contempt for who He is?  Do we ignore His will and commands with a disrespect that leads us down a very dark path?  Do we have no regard for His name and the reputation we give it to those who are watching us?  In our relationship with Him, and with others, God calls us to be holy as He is holy.  While that is impossible to do on our own, we can experience a cleansing of our attitude and an empowering of His Spirit to enable us to live a life that is holy and acceptable unto God.

So, how are your relationships?  Are you allowing your relationships to grow in depth and purity as you center them around the core of a vibrant relationship with God?  Do you live submissively in relationship with people in a way that shows you value them and their needs above yourself and your desires?  I pray that you and I would pursue God faithfully and be found “pure in HEART” because we have paid attention to purity in our Humor, Eyes, Attitude, Relationships, and Teaching!

2 Samuel: Lesson 14 — Coming Home

The following are discussion questions from a weekly study I am leading through the book of 2 Samuel.  We meet each Wednesday evening at the Deer Run Church of Christ.

A Man After God’s Own Heart:
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

A Study of the Book of 2 Samuel

Lesson 14 (Coming Home)
2 Samuel 14
December 12, 2012

The Text:

  1. What did Joab know about the king?  Who did Joab enlist to help him?  What story did Joab give to be told to the king?  How does David respond to the story?
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  2. After David responds to the story, who is he told the story is really about?  What question does David have for the one telling the story?  What answer is he given?
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  3. Who does David give instructions to regarding Absalom?  How does that person respond?  What does it seem to say about where he was for all of this?
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  4. Where does Absalom go when Joab brings him back to Jerusalem?  What were David’s instructions regarding this?  What was the reputation Absalom gained throughout Israel?
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  5. How much time passed with Absalom not seeing the king?  Why did Absalom send for Joab?  What did Absalom do after Joab refused for a second time to come to him?  What was his reasoning?  What came of it?

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The Application:

  1. Have you ever found yourself in a situation that you wanted to be different but had reached a point that you didn’t know how to change the circumstances?  Why is it important to involve wise people when dealing with conflict?  How are you able to help people see necessary changes without them feeling a need to be defensive?
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  2. How do stories help you see things in a bigger perspective than what otherwise might be noticed?  How do you feel when confronted about something and you realize that someone else is behind it all?  Should it matter?
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  3. How hard is it to stay in the background when others are needed to speak on your behalf?  How gracious are you when your requests are received well?
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  4. How difficult is it to fully put the past behind you?  Are there times when it is easier to keep a distance from the people of past situations to avoid the reminders?
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  5. Do you ever get tired of waiting?  How often do you avoid people because you know they will ask you do to something that you know someone else doesn’t want done?  To what extremes would you go to be heard?  Is partial reconciliation better than no reconciliation?

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Next Week: I Can Be King!
2 Samuel 15

2 Samuel: Lesson 13 — Two Wrongs . . . Are Still Wrong

The following are discussion questions from a weekly study I am leading through the book of 2 Samuel.  We meet each Wednesday evening at the Deer Run Church of Christ.

A Man After God’s Own Heart:
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

A Study of the Book of 2 Samuel

Lesson 13 (Two Wrongs . . . Are Still Wrong)
2 Samuel 13
December 5, 2012

The Text:

  1. Who was Amnon?  What was his feelings toward Tamar?  Who was Tamar?  How is Jonadab described?  What did he notice about Amnon?  What did he recommend doing?  Who came to visit Amnon?  Why?  What did Amnon request?  What did he do when the request was granted?
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  2.  How did Tamar respond to what Amnon was trying to do?  What reasoning did she try to use to prevent Amnon’s actions?  What alternative did she give?  How did Amnon feel after he had his way?  What was Tamar’s response to this?
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  3. What was Absalom’s response to Tamar when he discovered what happened?  Where did Tamar end up living?  What was David’s reaction when he found out what had happened?  What was Absalom’s immediate response to Amnon?
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  4. When Absalom’s sheepshearers had gathered, what request did he have of David?  How did David respond?  Who was he really wanting?  How much time had passed from the incident earlier in the chapter?
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  5. What did Absalom have his men do?  What did the rest of David’s sons do after this happened?  What was the first report that got back to David?  Who corrected that report?  What was the reason given?  What did Absalom do?  What did David do?

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The Application:

  1. Have you ever wanted something you knew was wrong?  What are the dangers of dwelling on something unobtainable?  How can you avoid being a part of someone’s deceitful plan?
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  2. When you’re in the midst of wrong about to happen, are you more concerned about how it will make you look or how it will make the perpetrator look?  What does it take to consider less harmful alternatives when surrounded by evil?
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  3. How do you respond when evil is done to people you love?  What role should justice play in forgiveness?  What dangers exist of not dealing with transgression immediately?
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  4. Does time really heal all wounds?  Why would you request something that wasn’t really what you wanted?  Why is manipulation such a bad thing?
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  5. Is it tempting to not get involved when you know a person “deserves” what they are getting?  Can you really ever make things right by doing wrong?  What can be the consequences?

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Next Week: Coming Home
2 Samuel 14